Sometimes somethings happen that make you think about things. Something that was mentioned yesterday and an innocent email made me think of remarks that were made to me a few months ago. If I am honest with myself I can understand why they were said however I am still certain they were the result of taking things out of context, and a few comments made to me made me even more convinced I made the right decision.
Its all about self perception really.
Last year when I started here I would wear trousers and jumpers every day. It was comfortable, it was inconspicuos and above all, after an innocent remark from someone I couldn't be accused of dressing for someone.
Many people know I have self esteem issues and can be so self consious and shy, however I realised at some point earlier this year that I can change me, I can be who I want to be. And so instead of being comfortable and inconspicuous I decided I wanted to wear skirts and boots and tights (Fishnets maybe) and so I did. Don'y get me wrong, my skirts are all about knee length or below, the fishnets are tiny and I look smart. From the reaction of some people when I mentioned I wanted to do this was as if I had said I was going to wear mini skirts and crop tops, or thats the way I perceived it anyway.
But the thing is, I know I needed to change. I needed to change the way I see myself and it worked. I am not saying that this alone changed me but was a part of it.
The thing that most recently struck me was a comment by a work mate. He was travelling when I made the change and a few weeks ago mentioned something, saying I was "frumpy" before he left. I used the excuse as "It was winter and cold" but the truth is, I was. But feel different now.
Anyway, enough self indulgence and stuff!!
I am sitting in work with no senior management team around me! They have all disappeared for the morning so I am not feeling like someone is looking over my shoulder all the time ![]()
In other news, the new dress I was forced to buy yesterday (Sminchin and Faffajane are such a bad influence.... ![]()
) looks very nice and I have decided to wear it friday
After a nightmare journey into work this morning, where my train was cancelled, I had to get on the next one so had to get the Victoria line, which I hate, and had to watch about 4 tubes go past before I was literally shoved onto the train, this morning seems quite relaxing
Hopefully the rest of the week will pass quickly and maybe I will find out why one of our ceiling tiles here is missing, which I just noticed!!!
faffajane
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I said that the dress was nice, I didn't force you, but yes I could see you in it and know you will wow people in it. In fact I am jealous. They didn't have my size otherwise I would have bought one as well lol

It is a lovely dress and it will look good on you. I don't think there is anything wrong with the way you dress at all. we all have our own sense of dress and it shouldn't be forced on other people, what we wear is up to us and others should judge us by it. I have phases where I will wear trousers all the time, then go into skirts. I am trying hard to reinvent myself but go back to what I feel comfortable in in the end.
hun you are a lovely person, don't let anyone try and change that
hugs xxxx